How a children’s book helped me share my rare disease story
Finding connection and understanding in R.J. Palacio's 'Wonder'
Two parents, unbeknownst to them, were carriers of a rare disease. They were shocked to learn about this genetic fluke after their child was born. From that moment on, life changed for the family, but together, they were able to create a meaningful journey.
While this is a prevalent story in the aromatic l-amino acid decarboxylase (AADC) deficiency community, I’m actually describing a book written for middle schoolers. As a teacher, I’ve read it several times over the years, as it’s required reading for our fifth-grade students. But my perspective on the book changed completely after my daughter, Rylae-Ann, was diagnosed with AADC deficiency.
Now, I choke back tears when I read it. The sentences may seem simple at face value, but I repeat them over and over again in my head. This children’s book captivated me.
“Wonder,” written by R.J. Palacio, is an easy-to-understand story peppered with academic vocabulary words for the educational benefit of the students it was written for. The book has since become a blockbuster movie. Although the humor is catered to children, with a teenage conversational tone at times, I believe the story will resonate deeply with everyone in the rare disease community.
The main character is Auggie, a child with a severe facial difference. In the book, Auggie decides to take a bold step and transition from home schooling to a prestigious private school. The transition is difficult, as he expected, but also surprising. He makes a few genuine, close friends who help him navigate the turmoils that all middle schoolers face.
The book shares the same story from multiple perspectives, making it a helpful tool for teaching students about the English language and different points of view. And because it demonstrates the intricate dynamics of everyone connected to a child with a rare disease, it can have an emotional impact on rare disease parents.
Sharing my own story
As part of my goal this year to continue sharing my story and supporting other families, I read a selection of “Wonder” aloud to my middle schoolers during a special morning session to raise awareness for Rare Disease Day. Nearly everyone had either read the book or watched the movie, so I just used key snippets as a segue into sharing my story with my school community.
Although I have gone public with my family’s story, there are parts of my life that still require me to take the initiative to share. I’ve never hidden anything, but I also haven’t volunteered to share some things. It never felt like the time was right. However, I’ve learned that sometimes you need to create an opportunity.
If you haven’t read “Wonder,” I encourage you to get a copy as soon as possible. I plan to review memorable sections on YouTube, as I think it will be helpful to other parents. But it will also be beneficial for me to express my thoughts and feelings about the book.
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